It takes a village… we hear that all the time. But what does a village look like these days? … Probably like a bunch of people staring down at their phones. (Let’s be honest.)
It’s become overwhelming clear from talking to other people that we all crave our own village. And when I say village, I mean our people, the ones that show up to our house in sweatpants and drink your last diet coke, but also are the ones that know you and love you in spite of that. People who celebrate, empathize, support, laugh with, drink wine with, and know all the places we hurt or are suffering. People who see you.
When Brian and I moved to our new house we both felt convicted to root ourselves in the community. We found a church close by and that has overwhelmingly been a step in the right direction. It doesn’t take much to woo us, we are relationship people.
Basically, we just want to be your boo.
Still, forging relationships is hard. Especially when it feels like everyone around you has already found their “person.”
I personally believe that I could make damn good person for someone. The thing is I love my people deeply, not widely. I’d much rather dive into a real conversation with one person than try to make small talk with a bunch of people around the dip bowl at a party. I’m an introvert who sometimes likes to talk to people. In my full time job I get paid to ask people questions and listen to them all day. I get to know people well very quick.
Sometimes more than I would like to know.
I’ve been participating in Jen Hatmaker’s For the Love Launch Team. The group of 500 amazing men and women are some of the funniest, wittiest, smart, and kind people I have gotten to know. The themes of the book include love, community, parenting, and some Jesus stuff. And the conversations from what we’ve read so far is genuinely the most raw, real, supportive, and caring. It’s a village, y’all. Women and men confessing the trials in their life, celebrating the happy moments, agreeing to the fact that leggings are definitely pants, and loving on each other even when we don’t agree. Most importantly, also pointing each other to Jesus.
That is the dream. That is what I hope we one day see play out in our community and even in our living room.